Monday, April 21, 2014

R & S - Rape & Stigma

Rape has pretty much become a word that is used in general conversations these days. All thanks to rising crime rates and the inability of the government or the police to curb it. And, of the course, the inability of the male population to control their wild untamed libido. The worst part is that most of the accused admit that the rape was not only an act of forced sex, but majorly a power play. They wanted to show the women where she belonged. As much as the society is progressing in terms of men women equality, people like these are pulling it back in the opposite direction as much.

There is another aspect of the rape phenomenon that is happening these days - the blame-the-victim game! I think it started with some moron saying that girls out on the streets past a certain time of the night were inviting troubles. And then the mockery never stopped. Someone said, it was the jeans and revealing clothes that were the cause of men raping the said women. Then someone said Mobile phones were responsible. Another one said chowmein was. A political honcho said boys tend to make mistakes. And that they should not be hanged for them. Another one said, the girls are an equal participant in the act, and hence they must be punished too. Well, to say the least, I feel disgusted. I don't want to comment on the above remarks and give them any more attention than they have already been given.

As if raping a woman wasn't enough to snatch away her basic right to say no, to be the way she wants to be, the society attaches all the stigma to the victim. And the accused have an easy run getting a bail, and leading a normal life.  Why does a woman who was raped and brutalized has to spend the rest of her life fighting the stigma and being called a rape victim? And the accused always gets called by his name. It is high time that the women be accorded the basic respect they deserve. The least we can do is, not to rob them off their identity for the rest of their lives and accord them a generic and very demeaning "rape victim" tag. And apart from improving the men's mentality about women and punishing them, it is the guilty who must be referred to as a rape accused for the rest of their lives, if they are not hanged, so that they are the ones who are looked own upon, and are not allowed to lead a guilt free life after destroying someone else's

13 comments:

  1. I think..there is a lot of education still needed to highlight the difference between individual freedom and steeping on someone else's freedom. For example few days back I read somewhere, if girls wear revealing clothes and this is okay..why is it not okay for boys to tease them for it. What rubbish is that?? How do they not see...by wearing certain clothes, by working, by studying, by just being a girl...we are not stepping on anyone else's space or freedom. Why can't others also give us our space?

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  2. I've read a number of stories about the rape problems in India. We certainly have our share in the U.S. There is a problem with moral upbringing as well as the way women are viewed by certain men.

    Lee
    Wrote By Rote
    An A to Z Co-host blog

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  3. Very well written Ghata. I agree, the tag should be on the rapist and not on the victim. I also agree with Arlee Bird's comment. There seems to be a degeneration of moral upbringing and a general lack of respect.

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  4. When society starts putting the blame where it belongs, on the perpetrator and not anyone or anything else, then may be we will start going somewhere.

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  5. A very sensitive topic which always makes me disgusted. The foot in mouth statements never end. Thanks for writing this. A rapist is a rapist for his life and the punishment should be hanging till death

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  6. The accused should be socially ostracised instead of the victim. You have put this up ,so aptly in your post !

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  7. I think our society needs to be educated and basic sense needs to be drilled in all else this apathy towards rape victims and the undesired stigma will continue

    S for Safe-Random Thoughts Naba

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  8. Yes, I hope the day comes when we ostracise the perpetrator rather than the victim. And men like Mulayam singh and abu azmi who make irresponsible statements must be penalised too.

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  9. It's disgusting that people consider those as justification for rape. Good points! New follower here. I'm stopping by from the "A to Z" challenge, and I look forward to visiting again.

    Sylvia
    http://www.writinginwonderland.blogspot.com/

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  10. Blaming the victim only assaults them all over again ! It is a terribly demeaning practice and we must all fight it, anytime it's ugly head arises. Thanks for raising awareness through your post.
    http://stephanierosebirdstudio.blogspot.com (participating in the A to Z challenge)

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  11. Rape is an assault and a form of controlling.

    Stop in from A to Z challenge.

    Coffee is on

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  12. It is a problem that needs to be dealt with at the roots. ..in the basic upbringing of the child! ! Hopefully the new generation of parents will be less discriminatory!

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